We are now three days into Karianna's kindergarten year and I have so many thoughts about how things are going thus far! I've been putting off this post because I'm not sure how to word them exactly, but I'll try to list a few thoughts here and hopefully refine them as the first quarter progresses. This is bound to be long-I tend to ramble when I am think-typing.
The First Day: Karianna's first day of school went great! Karianna and I had about 10 minutes to hang out together before I needed to take off. We turned in her immunization record and went to get in line with all the other gathering kinder kids; they line up in front of the office each day with a teacher, and once enough kids arrive, they are escorted to the playground. Karianna was pretty quiet, but she didn't seem over nervous or clingy at all. She looked so tall in a line of rather small children, and to me, she looked so old!
I kept asking her if she was feeling okay, and she kept telling me yes, but I wasn't sure if I believed her. Karianna can definitely be an introvert; sometimes I can't tell if her behavior is just that, or true blue nerves! When the teacher started escorting the kids to the playground (no parents allowed unless you check in!), I gave her a good hug and kiss and wished her an awesome first day. She said, "OK." I followed the kids to the gate and watched her disappear around the corner...she didn't even look back over her shoulder!!! Oh sadness! I think I mentioned this before, I just felt empty. Moms all around me were crying, looking back now, it was kind of funny. At the time though, it just felt weird and I hoped with all my heart she would feel comfortable.
Fast forward to after school. I picked Karianna up and she was perfectly happy; her teacher said she had a great day, to which I mentioned I had been nervous for her since she was acting so shy. Karianna piped up to retort, "Mom, I am NOT shy!" I stand corrected! I asked Karianna about a bazillion questions on the way home, which she answered, but she wasn't jumping to share a ton of information. Rather, she was acting like this she had been in school for years, and this was just the ordinary routine! I suppose I'll take that over having an awful first day-she did say she wanted to go back the next day, so again, Ill consider that successful.
The Second Day: Karianna's second day of school was more of what I imagined her first day would be like. She gave me a great big hug and exhuberantly yelled, "See ya Mom!" when I dropped her off at school. At pick up, she told me an exponentially greater amount of information about her day than the previous day. I learned all the rules, many classroom procedures, and all the names of the children that sit at Table 4 with Karianna. I was so tickled to hear all the things they had done that day, and especially tickled to see how excited Karianna was acting. She told me that some boys were putting sand in her hair at recess. I asked her what she did, and she said she had told the boys that wasn't very fair. The boys apparently stopped, and the problem was averted. Yea!! Solving problems was something I worried about for Karianna, and she did it on her own, and I am so proud of her!
So all in all, the first few days have gone great! Here's a few of my corresponding thoughts about everything; I know some of these thoughts are perhaps premature and they might chnage as time passes, but here they are nonetheless:
The School: So far, I love this school environment. The teachers have seemed so child-centered and genuinely interested in getting to know each student. I love how secure the campus is. I love how caring Karianna's teacher seems, and at the same time, how on the ball she is. I love the uniform situation. It's interesting, when Karianna gets home, she has a snack and then changes into play clothes. After 3 days, I have seen a literal difference in how she acts with her school clothes on and then how she acts with her play clothes on. Total difference! I also love that she is already making friends and remembering their names after only 2 days. That was another thing I was worried about and that seems to be working just fine. Overall, I feel so comfortable with her school, and that is a great feeling.
The Schedule: I love my daily schedule. It keeps me sane during the day knowing I have specific mealtimes, naptimes, playtimes, etc. I was a bit nervous about our school schedule, given that it would require a change for everyone in the family, particularly the boys since their nap was going to be much earlier in the day. I am finding that I love the changes in our schedule! My day seems to go by much faster; before I know it, 4:00 rolls around and its time to start prepping dinner! Our schedule is broken up into distinct time blocks and that has really helped me have the energy to get a lot accopmlished: I know a break will come soon, thus I am more willing to stay moving!
Jordan seems to be the only one right now really struggling to adjust, as he gets very tired around 5, but his head is confused by the remaining sunlight. Karianna seems to be all right until that same time when I notice her behavior getting a bit more erratic than normal, which usually signifies sleepiness. Thankfully, our schedule calms down drastically after our 5:00 dinner-story time, bath time, quiet movie time, and then bed time. I think next week those two kiddos will have their internal clocks all figured out and then things will run even smoother!
Time with the Boys: I love my time with the boys. Granted, Jordan still frustrates the crud out of me by playing with every off-limits item in the house! However, I find myself much more encouraged to actively engage with the boys in the morning, especially since I know nap comes quick. My time with JD has been especially welcome these last few days. Our conversations are more detailed; his imaginary play has become more intricate; his willingness to help with chores has increased. I almost see a greater sense of responsibility and independence now that Karianna is not here during the day to hold those titles. It's a really neat shift to experience, even after three days and I am very grateful for the chance to bond with the boys!
Soapbox Warning!
Homework: As a teacher, I loved the practice of homework. A lot of current research claims homework has no academic benefits and is a waste of time. I have always disagreed; if it is done correctly, homework does have great benefits. I was definitely curious to see how homework would feel from a mom perspective as opposed to a teacher perspective. The verdict, even after three days (which I get, might change, but here it is): I LOVE homework. I was very sad to send Karianna off to school when I have been her primary teacher for the last 5 years. I loved working with her and bonding with her as a result. I loved being so intimately aware of her learning habits, styles, and preferences. I loved seeing the connections, and how her personality shaped and molded her learning experience. It was difficult for me to let go of that since I know, after a full school day, the best I could expect in terms of continuing my teaching habits was homework time.
Given all my thoughts, I LOVE homework. It is now my time to bond with Karianna, to stay involved in a major part of her life (education), and to let her know I am interested in HER and what she is doing when she is away from me all day. I have to wonder how many parents view homework in this way. I do not view it as a bunch of extra worksheets to complete, or a waste of time that keeps kids from doing other fun activities. Hanging out with my little girl and giving her lots of compliments and learning right along with her IS a fun activitiy in my book and those 20 minutes of homework time for us has been awesome! This might be my favorite part of the day.
Energy: It has been much easier, as I previously mentioned, for me to keep my energy levels up. Yesterday, I had a doctor appointment and then a 3 hour glucose test to do. I also had an interview at 6:30 in the morning, which meant I was up at 5:30. I was also fasting for said glucose test. I didn't get home from all those appointments until 2:00. I had several vials of blood drawn, several pricks and thus bruises on my arms, no food in my stomach, and zero energy given that the sugar high from my glucose drink had long since dissipated. I was expecting to have a movie afternoon so I could pass out.
Thus, it majorly surprised me that I had a huge burst of energy when Karianna got home. We played make up with the boys, conducted a rousing game of baseball, cleaned the kitchen together, drew pictures, organized the toy bins, and before I knew it, it was 5:00 and time to get dinner going. The reason? I miss Karianna during the day, and no part of me wants to waste the time that I do get with her. This fact alone has acted as a huge internal motivator to keep my energy levels up; I almost feel like it gives me a chemical reaction of extra endorphins! Whatever the case may be, I am so grateful for the extra energy, I just hope it continues when my three kids turn into four.
That's all I got for now. I don't think I typed enough. Is anyone still reading this? :) If so, you are incredible-you get a million points! Woo hoo!
I'm such a first time mom right now! Gotta love it!